Sunday, September 30, 2007

#189: destination wedding.

i feel like...
for the type of wedding i want to have...
the only way i could achieve it...
is to have a destination wedding.

i want...
just a few close friends...
and a few close family members...
by my side when i say i do.

but would it be selfish...
to leave out those who'd want to be there...
and defy all that is my mom's wish...
to make sure that i'm completely surrounded.

hm.
perhaps i should wait...
until i'm engaged...
to even start thinking about this.

blah.
who am i kidding...
i will keep thinking about it...
while i eat my chocolate.

4 comments:

e said...

since i married before my brother ever will, i decided to have a family wedding, but on my turf, not theirs. that was a small compromise, since i would have preferred to get married in a tiny medieval church in rome. now that i'm married, my mom thinks it'll be ok for my brother to do whatever he wants.
the wedding was a lot of fun for my family. many considered it their last reunion, so i was happy to provide an excuse for everyone to come together. a part of me will always wish i had done it differently, but sometimes compromises need to be made. the hard part is knowing that the wedding isn't really about you and trying to make sure it reflects who you are anyway.

Teana said...

"the hard part is knowing that the wedding isn't really about you and trying to make sure it reflects who you are anyway"

funny you should say this because that's the main reason why my bf wants to elope first before going through the big ceremony, with our parents knowledge and blessing. he wants our wedding to be about us and that's the best way to achieve it.

its a weird thing how when planning such an important day in your life, that you're constantly bending over and around to accomodate everyone else and, if you're not careful, end up planning someone else's wedding.

molly said...

I just got engaged a week ago, but have been looking at stuff/sort of planning forever. I say keep thinking about it.

PS- love the blog. Long time lurker. :)

Lady T said...

i must agree withyou.

i just stumbled here from somewhere and i'm not engaged either...but i am in a serious relationship with a man that i want to marry who has expressed his desire to marry me and we have looked at rings, so thats enuff for me, ha!

anyway....after much conversation with his mom and my mom in the past several months. i couldnt agree with the line teana highlighted more.

and i also agree with you that in order to have things "my way" i would have to go away to do that.

but my family is pretty strapped for cash...and his is very much broke. and the possibility of going anywhere special and away is 0% as i am the only daughter of my family and my bf is the favorite oldest son.

both mothers would fall out from stroke and haunt us from their graves.