Monday, March 16, 2009

#582: great.

i don't understand.

this blog is supposed to be anonymous.

but fiance told one of his friends about it.

so i'll slowly be purging some of the more personal posts throughout the week.

i hope you understand.

because i don't.

27 comments:

LPC said...

:(.

Sarah said...

Aww, that makes me sad. :( I'm sorry babe.

Color Me Green said...

that's one of my fears...that my blog will someday become too public and i'll have to purge stuff. i'm sorry. your fiance prob just thought your blog is cool and wanted to share it......

Leika said...

Oh no! I'm so sorry...

Kelley at My Island Wedding said...

Color me Green is right. He is probably proud of your blog and wanted to share.

Hope you don't have to spend too much time deleting!

Megan said...

My fiance told his parents about mine last night. Then they wanted to read it, and while I haven't written anything super personal yet, I just didn't want a lot of people who I know in real life to know about it.

Ruthie said...

woah. I guess that is why I keep my more personal stuff to a venue I can lock (Livejournal). That's really lame that your fiance didn't respect your wishes on that, maybe it's time to re-affirm what you need from him as far as this blog is concerned.

Christy said...

Sorry that your fiance spilled the beans. I hope you can still use this outlet!

notsojenny said...

i get more nervous by the day that someone searching for things about my upcoming wedding is going to stumble across my anonymous blog... i might be doing some purging very soon as well.
sucks that he told, i hope you scolded him in some loving manner : )

Anonymous said...

Do you want it to be private because you want guests to be surprised at all the beautiful work you've done or because you are embarrassed by the super whiny/self-pitying moments you've had (ie this post)? People should be proud of what they put into the world, and if it's the latter you should perhaps think more before you post. I know this sounds mean, but self reflection is a blessing when planning such an important event. Don't be mad at him - men think differently.

Stephanie Lyn said...

Posting anonymously has always kept me wondering...

Will you reveal your true identity once your wedding is over? Will we get to see your gorgeous pictures from the oh-so-talented Max?

p.s. I think the last comment is funny, given that they themselves posted as 'anonymous' ;)

Ten Thousand Only said...

anon - yes, you're right. i would rather our friends not know every last detail about our wedding.

but as for being embarrassed about the super-whiny posts... i'd have to say you're way off on that.

the purge will be necessary because if people figure out who i am, they'll probably figure out who i'm talking about during my charmed moments of 'self-pity' or when i stumbled with my emotions... and i'd rather protect those identities than not.

if you start saying things like i should 'be proud' of what i put out there...

well... it makes me wonder... am i really 'proud' of ANY of my posts? and i just really don't know what that has to do with anything. because i'm not here to tell you that i know everything or to proclaim some sort of vigilant invincibility in the quest to throw a $10,000 wedding.

i just write.

i'm just a girl with a few ideas, sharing them with you, talking about what matters to me. discretion wasn't part of it until now...but it will be, going forward.

that's all.

WestAussieWedding said...

Damn straight.

People have been hiding their diaries under their beds for centuries, having an anonymous blog is just the modern equivilant.

I keep my wedding blog a secret from my friends & family because I feel less restricted that way. I figure Im doing them a favour as I can post about weddings instead of boring them talking about it.

I would feel a bit red-faced if anyone I know found it because they'd think that Im a bit obsessed.. and theyd probably be right.. ha!

Im with you. My blog is more of a personal indulgence than a source of pride, most of the things I am proud of take place in The Real World. I just like putting all my favouritee pictures and thoughts in one place.

Its a shame your Fiance blabbed, he obviously didn't 'get it' (though Im sure he does now!) and its a bummer you feel you have to cull some of your posts.

Hopefully his mate wont bother to look it up and if he does wont go too far back..

CheapAndEasy said...

My blog is anonymous as well & like you, I would not be happy if my fiance told anyone. However, I think I have that under control since he doesn't even know about it!

My choice has nothing to do with not being "proud of" what I write or what I do. My blog is a place to vent, work out ideas & get feedback. I like that I get to talk to people that I don't know personally because their feedback is entirely objective. They don't know me & have nothing invested so personal feelings & desires don't cloud their opinions. Plus, occasionally those closest to me bug the crap out of me & writing about it helps without hurting anyone's feelings.

Sorry you've been outed but I'd have to assume he told his friend because he's proud of you. And assuming his friend is male, it's highly doubtful he'll look beyond the first page.

Color Me Green said...

Cheap & Easy - you totally nailed why i have a secret blog! plus all my lovely readers actually care about the crazy shit that goes on in my head whereas most ppl i see on a daily basis can't relate.

Meg said...

I suspect he's just proud of you, and forgot it was a secret. Chin up! It'll be fine. What your doing is creating a safe community space, and anyone in your life who isn't fine with that... well better to know sooner rather than later, right?

Liz @ McFargan: A Midwestern Matrimony said...

Oh no! Well, hopefully, the writing of it did the purging mind job at the time it was needed!

Cyd said...

such. a . bummer.

the quest said...

uggggggggggghhhhhhhhh. so. sorry.

east side bride said...

TTO, we love you for laying it out there. For your whining and self-pity and *honesty* Please don't lose that.

Anonymous, I think you should go read a different blog.

Molly said...

For what it's worth, my favorite thing about your blog is how you openly consider and muse and try various things. It's a process I can seriously relate to (not every bride has a vision--some of us need to experiment!).

I like to see all the stages of your craft projects and the way you think out loud is, I think, the most distinct personal touch in your blog. And that, at least, you won't have to delete.

amber {daisy chain} said...

darn, fiance! the personal posts are what we love most!

Shelly said...

I agree with east side bride: anonymous should just go read another blog.

I'm not planning a wedding, nor will I ever plan another wedding even if I get married again someday...and I read your blog every day. I love that your blog isn't crammed full of advertisements and cutesy logos, etc., and I love it because it is *real* and because it has heart. I would hate for this blog to lose what is so special about it (YOU! and ALL your feelings!) because of someone else.

I don't know what my point is here; I just hate that you have to change anything and I'm sorry for that!

e said...

boo!!! sorry to hear that i love your blog and everything about it... its has never came off as "whiny/ self pitying" ever. your honesty is what i love about your blog. i say keep it up who cares who reads it!

Tasterspoon said...

Maybe you could just change your address? (I know you'd lose a lot of readership...sucks either way.) Bummer.

sera said...

Aw. I too love the personal posts, and I too think "anonymous" should go read another blog, or at the very least, hold her typing-tongue. And I don't think he realized how much personal stuff, you put on here, when he outed you.

I screwed myself when I started my blog by giving the address to my mom. And she's still a little confused as to how to comment so, I don't know why I showed her in the first place. If I gush to much in my comments to you or any of the other awesome blogs I read for encouragement and solidarity, it's because I can't be so personal on my own blog. My man already told me I should start a separate, non-wedding blog. If you start another personal blog, I'm certain we would find a way to find you, because we love you.

The Perfect Pear l.l.c. said...

sad to hear it! but the show must go on! make a little bit private this time..
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