Monday, June 22, 2009

#654: do you believe in soulmates.

my 14 year old cousin asked me that over the weekend.

i told her that i didn't believe in soulmates...and gave her some long winded answer about how every relationship you're in becomes a part of you and develops who you are and prepares you for the relationship that you end up wanting to be in forever.

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"i still believe in soulmates."

16 comments:

melanie said...

are you born as soulmates? debatable. should you grow together to become soulmates? mos def. :)

Julia said...

I don't, unless there is more than one soulmate per person. I've been in past relationships where I know if we found our way back together we would be perfectly happy. The timing just wasn't right.

paperhouse said...

that's precious. I love that innocence. But, yeah, we grow and are shaped into soulmates I think ... you probably grow that way in your relationship - but there are a TON of great people out there.

east side bride said...

I think maybe I believe in soulmates. Maybe.


Cuz I found mine.

DinaBear said...

I have such a deep appreciation for what you are doing. Thanks for being an inspiration!

Mama H said...

I do believe. I never believed that I would find ONE person to satisfy all aspects of my character/personality. Then I met my (now) husband. And the first thought that went through my head was "THAT is the man I should marry." And he had the same experience meeting me. I'd say that's soulmates.

Meg said...

Me neither. Well, us neither. I didn't realize till my shower this weekend how everyone was going to be congratulating me on finding mine, which was weird.

We don't even really belive in true love... just good choices and hard work.

Kelly Merrill said...

I believed in soulmates when I was younger, very much so, in the movie "serendipity" kind of way. Then, I kind of stopped believing that once I'd been in relationships and seen people get together and break up for so long. When I met my fiance, I started believing again. I really just knew about him. That doesn't mean that I completely believe he was hand selected for me from birth and that if we'd made different choices we'd still have found each other, but he's the one. If only dress shopping had turned out that cut and dry.

Michelle said...

That's cute. I'm with you though -- I don't believe in being born with one other person in life who is supposed to be "Your Person." I can think of about three people that I would probably be simply content with spending the rest of my life with, but I love and enjoy my boyfriend/fiance/whatever the most. He completes and compliments me.

liz @ chic on the cheap said...

i asked my dad this once. he said, no, he doesn't believe in soulmates. and then he was thoughtful for a minute and added, "but, i don't know how to explain how i found your mom."

D-Day said...

I'm with Kelly M on not believing in soul mates in the "born to meet each other" kind of way, don't really believe in Fate, but I know when I met my fiance, something inside each of us.. resonated. it wasn't love at first sight but it was Connection at first sight. who knows if we would have met had me made different choices earlier in life but.. it sure feels like there would be something missing in my life if we'd never met.

Sarah said...

if our lives weren't our lives and we didn't make certain specific choices, would we have found each other and ever been together? probably not. but maybe, we were meant to make those choices and end up where we are today. either way... whether i call us "soulmates" or not, i do believe in "the one true love", and that is him.

JSmooth said...

As a guy, the discussion of soul mates is not all that common.

A person can think about the way they first met their significant other. Think about what one thing you could have done different that would have made the possible, inevitable.

There will always be conflict, but it's the way a couple handles their problems that proves whether they belong together.

In this day and age, there is too many outside conflicts that jeopardize marriages.

Is it possible to plan a wedding on $10,000. What about a destination wedding? one on a cruise?

The moment that another accepts the fact they will be with another, the clock starts clicking.

Everything seems or is about money. Sometimes another won't understand that you want to buy them expensive things and do the things they want, but money holds everything back.

You have an interesting blog dedicated to weddings. You tapped into an area of great demand. Good luck on your future.

foxxxyboxxxy said...

i dunno if i believe in soulmates. i am, however, a firm believer in things happening for a reason, whether its a god, fate, destiny, or just the workings of the myterious universe. i doubt the meeting my now fiancee was mere chance or a coincidence... the timing and the way it all played out was perfect. had he asked me out any sooner than he did, i wouldve said no(because i was dating someone at the time...and the guy ended up dumping me later)...and if i had mustered up the courage to ask him out after i got over being dumped... he wouldve said no because it wouldve caught him off guard and he wouldve been way too bashful. it really boggles my mind the way the whole situation just unfolded so perfectly. ridiculous.

The Perfect Pear l.l.c. - Jeremiah K said...

I dont believe in soulmates, but i do respect who believes on it, in my points of view, I only believe on faith only, he who wants to believe is called faith, the one's to be destined together, not a coincidence but having faith that someday you will find the person that will truly loves you and marry you! :)

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Annie said...

i believe in soulmates....and also that you can have many many of them throughout your life!