#386: ...or both?

i just had another nightmare about our wedding.

we never rehearsed, we were frantically writing our vows up until we were dragged to the church pews to take our seats before the ceremony (???), the ceremony overlapped with an actual church service, our wedding was almost forgotten and the congregation was told to leave and then to come back again, and after it was over, i begged of everyone "could we pleeeease do it over? i didn't get to walk down the aisle.." and no one would listen.

wow. lonely world, these wedding nightmares.

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if you couldn't tell, i walked away from my job in finance. and in doing so, i also walked away from medical insurance, dental insurance, worker's comp, paid leave, etc.

and i feel nekkid.

and although it's rather exhilarating to be freeeeee from the clutches of an industry i really could care less about, i also feel apprehensive and irresponsible at the thought of not being covered, insurance wise (among other things).

so like in any partnership, the fiance and i thoroughly discussed (for about 5 minutes) what we should do. and we've decided to...

ELOPE.

egads. i know. but wait. we're not going to just elope. we're going to elope FIRST. we'd legitimize our marriage on paper and with a civil ceremony...and still have our 'wedding' next year (which is, as of now, i think going to happen in May. emphasis on 'as of now' and 'i think'.)

first and foremost, we'd be ridding ourselves from most of the anxiousness we feel in wanting to get married like Right. Now. remember how we considered november dates and february dates? it's because we really do just want to be married. we've flip flopped on the dates a million times, trying to find reasons to get married sooner rather than later. so eloping first would...offer us some relaxation in that regard. we could focus on the 'family' and 'celebration' part of the wedding as opposed to the 'getting married' part. is that weird?

second, we'd be married. WE'D BE MARRIED! (i guess this would be an extension of the first point...)

third, i would no longer be nekkid.

i think i heard the word "perfect" from the fiance at some point during our talk. i also asked my mom and she was 110% for it. i discussed with friends and they were fully supportive...and even suggested that we ask our photog to photograph the civil ceremony in lieu of our 'engagement' pics (which i think is brillz because i never really saw the point of having engagement pics - separate post about that coming up soon).

so. as strange as it may sound, it looks like we're doing both, my friends. eloping + hosting a wedding. it just works for us...and i can't tell you how excited and happy i am.

1) which date would you use for the anniversary? i think i'm going to use the wedding date, not the eloping date. unless convinced otherwise.

2) i will be sporting a dress from my own collection of dresses. but it doesn't hurt to imagine what it'd feel like to get civilly married in one of these:


via perfect bound.


via ruby pr.


via style.com.