tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post983637466641373891..comments2024-03-19T13:23:31.645-07:00Comments on a $10,000 wedding.: #648: well?Ten Thousand Onlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09731426268019406064noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-1153094411981519022009-07-24T03:03:00.890-07:002009-07-24T03:03:00.890-07:00it doesnt matter what it says! the more important ...it doesnt matter what it says! the more important things are that you give a enough information and Ideas, by sharing yours! We are all appreciate what you shared with us on your journey, so don't give up, you help a lot of people out there, having this information! so keep it up! and congratulations! <br /><br /> -----------------------------<br /><br />The Perfect Pear has been your specialists for Christening Gowns, Flower Girl Dresses, flower girl gowns, First Communion Dresses and Suits. Baby Dresses and Children's Pageant Dresses since 1993 bringing you an outstanding selection with modern convenience. We're growing with your children for all their special occasions in life. Visit site here http://www.theperfectpear.com/The Perfect Pear l.l.c. - Jeremiah Khttp://www.theperfectpear.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-41990814222092471122009-06-22T13:25:58.756-07:002009-06-22T13:25:58.756-07:00hmm- wow that was a lot of comments.
I agree with...hmm- wow that was a lot of comments.<br /><br />I agree with the letter writer. People will judge= I hate how people judge about money. It's about your wedding, not about the price tag- and it's done. <br /><br />I also, as a fellow blogger, would laugh if someone asked me to be "professional" about my blog. It's a blog (and yours is a beautiful, wonderful, fantastic one!) but still a "personal" space.<br /><br />Each bride will have to decide how and on what they would like to splurge or save money- weddings are not cookie cutter.<br /><br />don't tell :)Eco Yoginihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10693080137196812405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-87250858400145999082009-06-19T06:54:57.196-07:002009-06-19T06:54:57.196-07:00you should just write the entry. Break down your b...you should just write the entry. Break down your budget -- in what ever fashion you figure (percentages, under, over, at, blah blahblha), tell the story, bang out the feelings. Then decide if you want to post it. It sounds like there's a lot of important emotion wrapped up in it for you and by just writing the entry you can 1.) come to *truly* know the end of *your* story 2.) know what it is you are even trying to decide to share with all of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-44024115931323941822009-06-18T15:03:08.719-07:002009-06-18T15:03:08.719-07:00I so very much agree with Kristen above this. You ...I so very much agree with Kristen above this. You totally rock and I am thankful for awesome blogger brides who do more than cruise THE KNOT for inspiration.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10294888516373976430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-91538186007299588092009-06-18T14:34:31.445-07:002009-06-18T14:34:31.445-07:00for me this blog was so much more than the 10,000 ...for me this blog was so much more than the 10,000 price tag. i'm an LA bride too - but that said i can already tell my wedding will be entirely different than yours. what i think all these independent and informative bride blogs show us is that we don't all have to have the same cookie cutter wedding. for that reason i don't think your final cost matters all that much. <br /><br />no matter what you decide though, i think you totally rock!kristennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-8508978568975591062009-06-18T14:34:07.751-07:002009-06-18T14:34:07.751-07:00Keep it to yourself. Its ok. Everyone fudges the n...Keep it to yourself. Its ok. Everyone fudges the numbers anyway. Some ppl include rings, some dont, some "forget" to include that specialty paper that they wasted, or the luncheon on wedding day. I totally agree with Ms email. PS- when I went over 10K, I stopped counting, and I really dont care anymore. That was 6 wks ago. ;o)Skeetahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11093172635166847227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-35124213547356100712009-06-18T14:15:01.498-07:002009-06-18T14:15:01.498-07:00Plenty of people have weighed in on both sides ......Plenty of people have weighed in on both sides ... I just wanted to send you some love.the un-bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15080583721005285729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-62441263183135154472009-06-18T12:56:02.285-07:002009-06-18T12:56:02.285-07:00DON'T TELL!
You know what? When I started pl...DON'T TELL! <br /><br />You know what? When I started planning, I took your goal for my goal (let's face it, we all did) and when I went over in the end I never counted it all up. I never told *myself.* Sure, I have a rough idea, but... Like your lovely reader says, it really doesn't matter.east side bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206689296805893265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-43697870033723971362009-06-18T11:33:05.567-07:002009-06-18T11:33:05.567-07:00You shouldn't feel obligated to disclose anyth...You shouldn't feel obligated to disclose anything. What does it matter what you spent? I think the important point here is that you went over budget, you had a great time and you didn't get struck by lightening just b/c it was over 10K. It happens to most of us- it's life! <br />And anyways, everyone has different priorities and we're going to spend our money on different things, so knowing exactly how much you actually spent isn't going to help the rest of us who are planning weddings on a budget. The whole point is that you are just like the rest of us modern gals trying to stay true to ourselves while planning an unforgettable occasion- whether you went over budget or not- and that's what has kept us coming back to your blog. <br />Let me close with: CONGRATS! Your photos are amazing, i can't imagine how fantastic the real thing was.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17294471972761893154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-83295256304505374422009-06-18T10:46:19.966-07:002009-06-18T10:46:19.966-07:00ooo this sure is a tuffie!!
i totally understand b...ooo this sure is a tuffie!!<br />i totally understand both sides of it. so maybe a compromise?<br />make a game! give us the numbers and the categories separately and we can try putting the two together like a matching game (like on worksheets you'd have to do in school, just include an answer key somewhere...) so that way the people who really don't want to know don't have to and the people who do can figure it out for themselves! just a thought...<br />but i think that if you don't want to disclose the numbers you don't have to. it's your blog, and regardless of the $10,000 name, i love reading it!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-55903254802599964312009-06-18T10:43:07.960-07:002009-06-18T10:43:07.960-07:00I dont think anyone really needs to know, but I...I dont think anyone really needs to know, but I'm sure we'd all like to anyways. I'd most want to know you thought was worth it. & what wasnt? obviously the photography was a chunk of mula, but it seems to be well worth it.<br />also... are you thinking about changing the name of the blog. now thats its on to married life?<br />your gorg!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-52960667873680424902009-06-18T10:40:36.666-07:002009-06-18T10:40:36.666-07:00It doesn't matter to me if you reveal the fina...It doesn't matter to me if you reveal the final number (and who paid for what), but I would like to know if you have any regrets about any of the money/extra money you spent. I'm currently investing probably twice what I thought was reasonable in my wedding from my own savings, but I think I'll be really pleased when it all comes to pass in August. I'd love to at least hear your reflections.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01878558363997101849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-80950996502148962792009-06-18T09:49:48.419-07:002009-06-18T09:49:48.419-07:00Going over budget on a wedding is a given. Whethe...Going over budget on a wedding is a given. Whether it is $100 or $10,000 - it happens. Mainly because most people don't have a clue about all the nuts and bolts that go into planning such an affair. That being said - I started reading this blog because I was interested in seeing what could be done for $10,000. I had a feeling a long time ago you weren't going to hit the mark (SoCal and Max Wanger??). But that is NOTHING to be ashamed of. <br /><br />Most other blogs don't give up what goes into the cost of the wedding. Yours was supposed to - at least that was what you alluded to in your title and I think you need to live up to that. Do I care if you went over? No. But I think you would provide a MUCH needed benchmark for many brides out there looking to figure out how to get it all done right around budget.<br /><br />I've gotten incredibly creative with my wedding and I'm still going to be about $3-5k over. Which is fine. It's why I budgeted for a buffer. But I work in the events industry and know these things. Others don't. Please share so that you can be a source of not only inspiration but information.<br /><br />Thanks.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07964067874449854147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-65310285559572781012009-06-18T09:32:19.974-07:002009-06-18T09:32:19.974-07:00i think if you want to be professional you should ...i think if you want to be professional you should follow through with your decision to disclose your plans for the $10,000 wedding and post the outcome, if not purely from a scientific point of view. <br /><br />BUT here's the problem with your budget....<br /><br />you obviously negotiated some trade to get what you want. we all know you can't afford max in a $10,000 budget however we all see the "max wanger" advertisement at the top of your blog. there is nothing wrong with this, i think you are incredibly savvy! but if you post your budget (which i REALLY think you should) you need to list what things should have cost and what you got them for because of your blog. it would only be fair.<br /><br />can't wait to see! it will be really helpful.Wedded Twisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06653157770080789418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-64478671552188515992009-06-18T09:19:51.716-07:002009-06-18T09:19:51.716-07:00Go with your gut. You don't have to do anythi...Go with your gut. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, especially if it will make you feel sick to your stomach. <br /><br />However, I don't think you'll ruin the magic either way. Your wedding was gorgeous and you followed your priciples and heart. Who cares what the number is!<br /><br />--signed, a lady who can't get motivated to start planning her own hopefully 10K wedding ;)Marisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01205206558999482765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-2292523150174132302009-06-18T09:18:22.520-07:002009-06-18T09:18:22.520-07:00Please share! I've been following your blog ea...Please share! I've been following your blog early on and would love to know the budget outcome. Your wedding was beautiful and a grand success on any budget, but it would help other budgeting brides (like myself!) to know realistically that maybe going over budget is not the worse thing in the world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-37726123611763054932009-06-18T08:58:35.142-07:002009-06-18T08:58:35.142-07:00haha i have to comment again now that i have read ...haha i have to comment again now that i have read the other comments. For all of those who feel like this blog is a movie without an ending, um, I thought the wedding was the happy ending?! And to the brides who only followed this blog because of the name and need to feel validated or encouraged, here you go: you CAN do it. It WILL be awesome. I promise!Heather from the barhttp://wemetinabar.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-50222034545000531202009-06-18T08:51:48.629-07:002009-06-18T08:51:48.629-07:00As a fellow bridal blogger who started out with a ...As a fellow bridal blogger who started out with a $10,000 budget, but will end up spending more (not a ton more, but more. I stopped counting a while back) I say do what makes you feel good. Seeing budgets is great, but at the end of the day, each bride has to make a wedding out of the money she's got. Whether that is $50 or $50,000. Knowing how much YOU spent on YOUR wedding won't change how much money THEY have to work with. If only all brides could realize, it is possible. No matter what your restraints, it is possible, it will be perfect in it's own way, and people will get over it (you know the people I am talking about, the ones who seem to always have an opinion on what a wedding SHOULD include) Anyways, your wedding was gorgeous, you don't owe us readers anything, and congratulations :)Heather from the barhttp://wemetinabar.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-25972238831362754772009-06-18T08:50:00.799-07:002009-06-18T08:50:00.799-07:00shoot, i want to know. planning a wedding is confu...shoot, i want to know. planning a wedding is confusing and overwhelming, and for those of us that 'look up' to what you were able to so beautifully pull off, knowing more about the financial aspect could be really helpful.allynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-21622051001050172592009-06-18T08:16:38.341-07:002009-06-18T08:16:38.341-07:00The email was very lovely and I agree with her. In...The email was very lovely and I agree with her. Instead of giving us the exact number maybe a run down by category (flowers, dress, decorations, food, booze, photos, etc.) of where you chose to splurge and why without giving any dollar values. I think that would be more in keeping with the spirit of the blog, rather than a detailed accounting. Your wedding isn't just an experiment or a project anymore, it's the start of your marriage and it makes sense that you would want to protect that. I'm more interested in what you prioritized on your wedding day than how much it cost.Jessicahttp://www.jfrac.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-87307321509170532512009-06-18T07:49:12.510-07:002009-06-18T07:49:12.510-07:00I would love to know the final tally. Even more he...I would love to know the final tally. Even more helpful to budget brides like me would like to see your original budget and actual as a side-by-side comparison so we know what ended up being more, what ended up being less, etc. I've been following forever to see, like your tagline says, "Can [she] do it?" Even though the answer turned out to be "no," I still think you've created something valuable here. And I know you feel exposed now that we've seen your gorgeous pics, but I'll bet you most of your readers are scattered across the country. I'm pretty sure I'll never run into you in Rhode Island! :-) And if I do, I promise I won't say a thing! Please do share if you're comfortable. It really is the ending I've been waiting for.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-11239169933804733482009-06-18T07:34:15.040-07:002009-06-18T07:34:15.040-07:00I'm on the want to know list and where the ext...I'm on the want to know list and where the extra/less spending popped up. I think sharing final budgets compared to what you thought it would originally be is incredibly helpful to other couples who are planning weddings.Brandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02363757619601724418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-24787190989850484162009-06-18T07:33:34.318-07:002009-06-18T07:33:34.318-07:00You don't have to tell. at all. you owe your ...You don't have to tell. at all. you owe your readers nothing, because you have already given so much. <br /><br />i tell all newly engaged friends to visit your blog for happy, non pressured, non-preachy, totally honest bride blogging.deeds102https://www.blogger.com/profile/12626429814525648039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-9269462388493736882009-06-18T07:26:13.112-07:002009-06-18T07:26:13.112-07:00I agree with Courtney - the point of the blog the ...I agree with Courtney - the point of the blog the whole time was to have a $10K wedding.<br />I'd like to know how close you were to that number, what changed, what you added, what you scrimped on to get the day you wanted.<br />If this was just a regular ol' wedding blog it wouldn't matter.<br />But the whole point of your blog - from the very beginning before you were even engaged - was to keep the number to $10K or less.<br />So yes, I'd like some final wrap-up to complete the journey.<br /><br />Did the $10K wedding become $11K? or $20K?<br />Did the money no longer matter compared to the EVENT and the VISION?<br />Were you able to pay cash for everything or was a loan or credit cards involved now?Steenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-72657004900955247062009-06-18T07:10:59.034-07:002009-06-18T07:10:59.034-07:00I've never commented, but I've followed yo...I've never commented, but I've followed your blog BECAUSE of the $10,000 theme- I would feel so cheated to have you back out in the end- like what was the whole point of making that the title of the blogDASnoreply@blogger.com