tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post7012917261770144849..comments2024-03-19T13:23:31.645-07:00Comments on a $10,000 wedding.: #614: dress envy.Ten Thousand Onlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09731426268019406064noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-69328830267333145312009-07-25T02:19:37.577-07:002009-07-25T02:19:37.577-07:00choose the wedding gown that are for you, and the ...choose the wedding gown that are for you, and the one's that you like, choose now and your regret it, get your own unique wedding gown, your gown is better than other brides wedding gown.. choose wisely! :)<br /><br /> -----------------------------<br /><br />The Perfect Pear has been your specialists for Christening Gowns, Flower Girl Dresses, flower girl gowns, First Communion Dresses and Suits. Baby Dresses and Children's Pageant Dresses since 1993 bringing you an outstanding selection with modern convenience. We're growing with your children for all their special occasions in life. Visit site here http://www.theperfectpear.com/The Perfect Pear l.l.c. - Jeremiah Khttp://www.theperfectpear.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-61812820197251240682009-04-23T09:29:00.000-07:002009-04-23T09:29:00.000-07:00Hello everyone,
I'm really glad I ran across this...Hello everyone,<br /><br />I'm really glad I ran across this blog because I only have three weeks to my wedding and I dislike my wedding dress. I can't return it at this point or afford to purchase a new one.ladybughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02307904258221438348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-20771598796335962272009-04-21T09:36:00.000-07:002009-04-21T09:36:00.000-07:00you can always have a seamstress re-shape your dre...you can always have a seamstress re-shape your dress or even change the style completely. I bought a vintage dress and had it totally re-made into a fitted a-line that I had a picture of. so, see what you can do with what you already have, and stop going to so many weddings, they'll make you crazy before your own!amber {daisy chain}https://www.blogger.com/profile/18319294429035814508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-24514583903244795172009-04-20T08:40:00.000-07:002009-04-20T08:40:00.000-07:00I went through the same thing. I saw a friend of m...I went through the same thing. I saw a friend of mine in a dress and loved it but I already bought a dress. I wanted it so much I went on a secret trip and tried it on. Thankfully it didn't look as good on me. I still go back and forth about my dress and I need to try it on once in awhile to remind me why I bought it. But don't worry many people feel the same way about their dress.Gemmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761804591699446948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-41494568934908701932009-04-18T12:44:00.000-07:002009-04-18T12:44:00.000-07:00grr. me too. total buyers remorse. more details he...grr. me too. total buyers remorse. more details here:<br />brokensaucer.blogspot.com <br /><br />gave you love too.serahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18182268757502634911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-32507028772627483822009-04-16T17:15:00.000-07:002009-04-16T17:15:00.000-07:00I had major dress doubt in the weeks leading up to...I had major dress doubt in the weeks leading up to my wedding - I too bought my dress at a 50% off sample sale and it was one of the first I tried on! I went a little crazy shopping around, looking for off-the-rack dresses, and scouring websites. BUT, when I had my hair and make-up trial done, and then tried on the dress, it made a huge difference. Finally, my seamstress was a miracle worker, and when it came time to alter it, she made it look like the dress was literally made for only me. All the pieces will come together - don't doubt your decision!Gingerbread Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04150075037510904672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-43685555002404688072009-04-16T13:48:00.000-07:002009-04-16T13:48:00.000-07:00Funny you wrote this because a friend of mine who ...Funny you wrote this because a friend of mine who is getting married, were just talking about this yesterday...my advice to her was whatever is your first reaction to the dress you purchased is usually the right choice. <br /><br />believe me you will always see a dress afterwards that is just as gorgeous as the one you bought but just no that the dress you fell in love with at first site is one that exemplifies everything that is unique about you! Thats why you had such a huge response to in the first place. You made the right choice!!!Quiana aka Haute Chocolate aka Mrs. Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00286918580701391381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-11764982107745542092009-04-16T09:56:00.000-07:002009-04-16T09:56:00.000-07:00Just reading these posts makes me feel better. I ...Just reading these posts makes me feel better. I am finding myself wishing that my dress would have some sort of accident.Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10610538836646535287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-7246856193603703812009-04-16T09:34:00.000-07:002009-04-16T09:34:00.000-07:00Maybe you could borrow your friend's dress? Then ...Maybe you could borrow your friend's dress? Then you'd have a dress you love with a lot of good memories already attached to it.<br /><br />If she's a very different size or that would be weird, then I agree with everyone who's recommending accessories. My boyfriend and I have such different ideas about what I should wear, and I am also quite apathetic, so I'm just getting a comfy, flattering, inexpensive, extremely generic dress. I won't love it, but it's better than having him hate it. <br /><br />So, I'm just going for broke on little details that will make me happy -- silly, meaningful clips hidden in my hair, blue toenail polish, some funky jewelry, my grandmother's earrings.<br /><br />My outfit will be very me because it's proof that I value my boyfriend's happiness significantly more than a dress. Your dress will be very you because you have more important things to think about and spend your money on.<br /><br />Think of it as a visual expression that you have your priorities in order.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10385095002853881453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-58903489784205005572009-04-16T04:36:00.000-07:002009-04-16T04:36:00.000-07:00I definitely hear that! I bought my perfect dress ...I definitely hear that! I bought my perfect dress because it was super cheap and a perfect fit. Now I have major dress envy... most of the time. If I could get back what I paid for it I would go with a new one, but I'm not sure that I could and the hassle... bleurgh. I keep telling myself it'll be fine, it's just a dress, and there are bigger problems. But then I look on another blog, see another dress and cry a little bit ;) I am curious though - can you post a picture of the dress from the wedding?!Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08511117741320344532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-57419226412960983112009-04-15T22:32:00.000-07:002009-04-15T22:32:00.000-07:00Wow that's kind of scary. Well I say go with your ...Wow that's kind of scary. Well I say go with your gut... every little girl dreams of her wedding day, and wants to be perfect and beautiful. Despite the fact that reality kicks in somewhere around 3rd grade, there is still the possibility of having the wedding of your dreams. Budget is of course a factor, but so is feeling fabulous on your special day.Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13842522443389391740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-85099675414704657392009-04-15T21:41:00.000-07:002009-04-15T21:41:00.000-07:00I feel you, lady.I feel you, lady.east side bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206689296805893265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-9420158366959583842009-04-15T17:13:00.000-07:002009-04-15T17:13:00.000-07:00I feel like you are a rockstar in the blogging wor...I feel like you are a rockstar in the blogging world and should post on etsy or something, see if some excellent seamstress near you could whip something up for a good price in exchange for the instant fame that would occur thanks to the thousands that read your blog. just a thought.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01035278685203676561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-38027963274150170922009-04-15T14:54:00.000-07:002009-04-15T14:54:00.000-07:00yes, i'm in the same boat... dress-ambivalent, sor...yes, i'm in the same boat... dress-ambivalent, sorta settled on a sample rack sale plain boring strapless white... yadda yadda. don't hate it. don't love it.<br /><br />rather than do the second-dress-scurry, i'm DETERMINED to go crazy on details i love. hot hot shoes. amazing lipstick. perfect hair. <br /><br />rather than obsess over the shoulda-couldas, obsess over all the fun ways you can play up the plainness of dress #1.<br /><br />personal soapbox time now... i think weddings make folks put way way too much stock into the dress. i expected fireworks when i put the thing on, and it didn't happen. and that's probably why i regret.liz@ chic on the cheaphttp://sochicsocheap.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-4860530189031453492009-04-15T14:36:00.000-07:002009-04-15T14:36:00.000-07:00Ditto, ditto, ditto!!! You've done it again. I...Ditto, ditto, ditto!!! You've done it again. I just purchased my 2nd dress (1. Really Amy!? 2 dresses? 2. Other one was $30 simple A-line from Target so...) & it's being sent to my mom for alterations. "i don't hate it. but i don't love it." This was pretty much with all I've seen/tried on. I am going to make the dress my own at least - get rid of the hideous hem, add straps & wear red shoes(!). And like Melanie, I've picked up "it's just a dress" too. It helps. Though TTO & co. helps more!amynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-47943212885860194472009-04-15T11:45:00.000-07:002009-04-15T11:45:00.000-07:00I am sure everyone goes through dress envy--- deco...I am sure everyone goes through dress envy--- decorations envy etc. etc..... can you link to your dress again I forgot what it looks like. Thanks! Just curious!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-64044045488248118692009-04-15T11:28:00.000-07:002009-04-15T11:28:00.000-07:00I feel your pain. I have had a love/hate relations...I feel your pain. I have had a love/hate relationship with my dress. But it hasn't even arrived yet (supposed to be here at the end of this month). After one night of total panic attacks about my dress, I found a sample of it at a local store. I went and tried it on. And I fell in love with it all over again.<br /><br />There is a reason you picked your dress. Her dress may have been perfect for her, but your dress is yours for a reason. Embrace it! :)TheInspiredHousewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01036340093201856439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-18450194719670972422009-04-15T11:15:00.000-07:002009-04-15T11:15:00.000-07:00Christina is wise. Listen to her.
Also, this is s...Christina is wise. Listen to her.<br /><br />Also, this is so so normal. NORMAL. Partially because it just is, partially because we've put all this cultural pressure to have a perfect dress that we have a deep emotional reaction too on our perfect day. Now THAT is not normal ;)<br /><br />What you are feeling? Yeaaaahhhhh. For sure. Also, I love your dress..Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526722516550185150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-47567405736991966122009-04-15T11:04:00.000-07:002009-04-15T11:04:00.000-07:00I say go try a few on if you have the time. I've ...I say go try a few on if you have the time. I've heard lots of brides say it makes them realize they are actually happy with their dress. Or, if yours is at home, invite a friend or two over and try it on to remind you what you love about it!Bumpy Bellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04229456115818198176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-71166341224743861332009-04-15T11:01:00.000-07:002009-04-15T11:01:00.000-07:00I think dress envy is normal - just like I don't b...I think dress envy is normal - just like I don't believe there's only ONE single person who's completely-right-and-everything-you-ever-dreamed-of-in-a-partner, there's not ONE prefect dress that's entirely you. For me, I have about five perfect wedding dresses that flatter and fit my personality (depending on my mood) and make me feel incredibly special. I have not bought the dress yet, but I'm sure I will both love the dress I choose and kinda wish I also had the other ones, especially since they're so pretty. (Note that the partner-as-dress analogy ends here, because I do NOT feel this ambivalence about my partner.) <br /><br />Remember, your dress is great. You picked it because you liked it and it worked for you (oh - and it's DANCEABLE.) And it's not the last dress you'll ever get to buy. I'm planning on finding ways to incorporate my non-wedding dress styles into future dress purchases. It makes me feel better than simply abandoning all the other lovelies.Los Angeles on a Budgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07577592365598152997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-76512833462927508332009-04-15T10:58:00.000-07:002009-04-15T10:58:00.000-07:00I'm a two dress bride... I really liked the first ...I'm a two dress bride... I really liked the first dress I bought but it was kinda pricey and too formal for the beach wedding we're having. So I went out shopping again and ordered dress #2, which was more casual, and more like what I expected to want when I first started shopping. Then, last weekend (as in 2 weeks before the wedding!), I decided I wanted to wear the original dress instead. My seamstress has been amazing and is going to be able to do all the alterations to dress #1 before we leave in a week, but the whole process has been really stressful.<br /><br />My only suggestion is try to figure out exactly what you like about your friend's dress and what you like/dislike about yours. When I was able to separate what I wanted to wear from what I thought everyone else would *expect* me to wear, the decision was easy(er). Don't feel bad about looking for a new dress if that's what you decide. :)melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07158185354552392816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-5005847366101609402009-04-15T10:56:00.000-07:002009-04-15T10:56:00.000-07:00first off, i know it doesn't seem like it, but 2 m...first off, i know it doesn't seem like it, but 2 months is really plenty of time...(i planned our whole wedding while producing a show in less than 5!! so you are doing great!!)<br /><br />suggestions to add accessories, make it your own, etc are great...even adding a shrug can really transform it and personalize it...or take it to a stylist/designer friend...<br /><br />and remember your friend's dress looked great because it was her day. your dress will look great on your on *your* day...just be confident, happy and own it. <br /><br />and you bought that dress for a reason, it will all work out just the way it should...christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17780331196723830632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-68488131858376848362009-04-15T10:48:00.000-07:002009-04-15T10:48:00.000-07:00I think dress envy is natural. And i think someone...I think dress envy is natural. And i think someone will see you in your dress and feel the same way. A couple times when i went to try on dresses, the bride next to me asked to try on the gown i just had on... and vice versa. Sometimes its easier to envy without doubts others b/c its not our own decision. And it seems most brides doubt their decision as the date approaches !:) I think you should stick w/ur awesome dress!<br /><A HREF="http://www.relentlessbride.com/" REL="nofollow">RelentlessBride</A>AmyJean {Relentless Bride®}https://www.blogger.com/profile/10648725099262152263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-58542915857189564422009-04-15T10:45:00.000-07:002009-04-15T10:45:00.000-07:00what about going to a seamstress and adding cap sl...what about going to a seamstress and adding cap sleves or straps? something to make it not so "this is a strapless dress"-y and more yours.violarulz/ducksandbookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06223425002708139409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906032051076130258.post-1156467746504023872009-04-15T10:30:00.000-07:002009-04-15T10:30:00.000-07:00i completely understand! i rushed into purchasing ...i completely understand! i rushed into purchasing my dress and, though my mom and bridesmaids love it and keep saying it's "so me," i have extreme dress-envy. i mean it's pretty, i just didn't have the "omg. totally. the. one." tears and fireworks feeling that everyone describes. one thing that has helped is making some alterations/additions to it that make it more like the dresses i covet that are way above my price range - adding a ruffle, changing the sash - stuff like that. perhaps you could make alterations too, or add accessories like others have suggested?lauren @ gathering mosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16249864843518805111noreply@blogger.com